A New Zealand mum has shared an important reminder to new mums reassuring them that they don’t need to spend a lot of money on their baby to be a good parent.
When women get pregnant one of the most enjoyable things they do is start looking at all the best and cutest décor, products and clothes for their unborn baby.
But as soon as the price tags starts adding up the joy can quickly turn to stress.
Instagram and Pinterest can paint an unattainable picture for many new parents, but mum-of-five Krystine Nation says there should be no need to try and achieve perfection.
The New Zealand blogger at Real Life Wife has just welcomed a new baby boy and he is just as warm and loved wearing hand-me-downs as any other baby in designer threads.
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Krystine connects with other mothers online at Real LIfe Wife. Source: @real_life_wifenz
“Even with my first we grabbed second-hands”
Krystine’s post about being ‘minimal’ with a new baby is resonating with mums across New Zealand and Australia.
“My 12 week old son has a bedroom that used to be an office and is now a little box room. His furniture is all second hand… his cot is a hand-me-down, his clothes are hand-me-downs, we use warehouse nappies, I use an $18 paw patrol backpack as a nappy bag,” she writes.
“We purchased a second hand pram and his car seat is a rental. Any clothes we do get him are usually $4-$8…… and he’s literally the happiest baby I’ve ever met.
“Even with my first child we grabbed as much second-hand stuff as we could, and accepted all hand-me-downs from family and friends.”
She adds the money a parent spends is not a true reflection of who you are as apparent. “Let this be a reminder to you that celebrities and influencers do not always truly represent a realistic attainable lifestyle,” she says.
“You are not expected to have a Pinterest-style nursery in order to be a good parent. Half the sh*t out there these days is unnecessary and purely for the income of giant corporations.
“Babies grow 100 miles an hour and outgrow everything within months. Save yourself the stress and the money and be minimalistic.“Your baby needs warmth, love, and food…. the end.”
Mum-of-five Krystine Nation shares the highs and lows of mothering. Source: @real_life_wifenz
Mothers agreed money isn’t a priority
Krystine’s post attracted more than 800 shares and more than 4000 reactions.
A mother commented, “All we brought for my daughter was a pram. Everything else was hand me down. My sister had a daughter a year before me blessing in disguise. Don’t be fooled by consumerism. So much good second hand stuff out there.”
Another experienced mum added, “Your children will not remember the brand new cot or the designer clothes. They will remember being safe and loved, that’s the greatest joy for you to give and the most valuable thing you can do.
“ My children are now 35,32,27 and 26. They look back with fond memories at a happy safe childhood. I think I did my job a d loved it.”