There have been endless stories of controlling and obsessive parenting, with some parents smothering their children in protection until they are young adults. A lot of parents do obsessive things in a desperate bid to protect their children from anything that could be potentially harmful… But when are these behaviors considered too far?
Rapper and record producer T.I has recently spoken out in a podcast about how he takes his eighteen-year-old daughter to the gynecologist every year to check if her hymen is still intact. He claims he does this to check that she is still a virgin.
Obviously, people are completely disgusted at the rapper’s actions and have even labeled them as child abuse. And now, a number of different celebrities have spoken out about his actions, and let’s just say – they are not impressed.
It’s no secret that there are many parents out there who are a little too protective of their children.
Some parents simply cannot fathom the idea of their children growing up and living independently, and safely by themselves.
As their children become teenagers…
A lot of parents truly struggle with the thought of their kids becoming sexually active and losing their virginities.
There comes a time in everybody’s life when they have to grow up…
And the thing that many moms and dads seem to forget is that their kids are no longer children.
But on average, the age of consent ranges from sixteen to eighteen-years-old.
They are the ones in control of what they wish to do with their bodies.
And T.I is one of these controlling parents.
Born as Clifford Joseph Harris Jr. in September 1980, T.I has made a successful career for himself as a rapper with popular hits such as “Whatever You Like” and “Live Your Life.”
His daughter, Deyjah, is now eighteen and has just started college.
Speaking of Deyjah, T.I said that she was “figuring it out for herself,” so “not only” had they already had the conversation, they take yearly trips to the gynecologist together.
You heard that right…
T.I, as her father, arranges to take her to the gynecologist once a year to ensure she is still a virgin.
Her virginity is “checked” yearly.
But as all women will understand, not all virgins will display classic characteristics of “being a virgin” from activities such as horseriding, gymnastics, using tampons, and even riding a bike.
These can all break the hymen that virgins have, which is what is broken during sex.
This means that T.I’s insistent and invasive checking of his daughter’s virginity is scientifically inaccurate.
The rapper’s claims initially drew laughter from hosts Nazanin Mandi and Nadia Moham, who thought he was joking or exaggerating… but he wasn’t.
It has become somewhat of a tradition between the father and daughter.
He reportedly said, “So it’s this one time we go, I think this might have been after her 16th birthday. This is what we do. Right after the birthday, we celebrate, usually like the day after the party, she’s enjoying her gifts.”
“I put a sticky note on the door: ‘Gyno. Tomorrow. 9:30′.”
“So we’ll go and sit down and the doctor will come and talk and the doctor’s maintaining a high level of professionalism. He’s like, ‘You know Sir, I have to, in order to share information’.”
He continued saying, “I’m like, ‘Deyjah, they want you to sign this so we can share information. Is there anything you wouldn’t want me to know?’ See Doc? No problem.”
T.I then recalled the doctor explaining how the hymen can be broken in other ways, but he clearly wasn’t interested because he simply stated, “Just check the hymen please and give me back my results expeditiously.”
He isn’t allowing his daughter the rights to her own body.
So far, the results have been to the obsessive father’s liking, with him claiming, “I will say as of her eighteenth birthday, her hymen is still intact.”
Not only is this an invasion of Deyjah’s privacy…
Her obnoxious father has shared her medical information for the entire world to see.
Not exactly what a young woman starting college wants…
T.I went on to contradict himself completely.
He goes on to suggest that no boy wants to be a virgin, saying, “They’re no fun. Who wants a virgin? Like really? All that work!”
The teenager admitted in a June 2019 episode of the family’s VH1 reality show that he’s already having sex.
Something you think would cause outrage, judging by his father’s yearly trips to the doctors with his daughter.
If he thinks that it is okay to completely control and possess his eighteen-year-old daughter’s life, whilst allowing his fifteen-year-old son to do whatever he pleases, T.I needs a wake-up call. He needs to realize that he must respect his adult daughter’s life.
And, quite understandably, people are completely outraged.
Many have slammed the rapper as “perverted”, and have shuddered at the ownership he’s imposing over his daughter.
And others have commented on how his violent behavior.
And have noted at his hypocrisy over his attitude towards his son’s quite blatantly active sex life.
Never one to keep her lip buttoned, Sharon Osbourne was one of the first to address the situation, explaining on The Talk on Wednesday:
“Firstly, he should never ever be talking about his daughter’s sex life, ever. And on a podcast? I think it’s freaky he would go to the gynecologist with his daughter and to talk about it.”
“Don’t talk about your kids’ sex life, about what’s going on in their body, it is sacred to them. It’s not your life.”
She added, “Because you’re the daddy doesn’t give you other rights, it’s not your life, let your daughter lead her own life. And keep her privacy.”
Chrissy Teigen also shared her thoughts…
By simply saying that she never thought she’d have to discuss hymens. Or T.I. Because who would have thought it?
And, when asked about how her parents found out she’d lost her virginity…
She simply, and hilariously, replied with the name of her child, Luna.
Top Chef host, Padma Lakshmi also voiced her disgust…
And she continued to defend Deyjah’s right to privacy when replying to a fan who claimed T.I. “has that right” to see her results.
“She is . And also, no [he doesn’t have a right],” she replied.
The tone was resounding across the full board…
As most celebs commented on how his actions have completely sickened them.
And most had a gentle reminder for T.I…
That a broken hymen doesn’t necessarily indicate sex. Sorry T.I, but you’re both perverted, creepy, and incorrect.
Yet, despite T.I’s blatant control issues…
We can’t help but remember that there’s an eighteen-year-old girl caught up in all of this, who is undoubtedly mortified that her private life has been exposed to the world.